Roommate tells mutual friends he pays for everything in apartment, despite splitting rent and bills 50/50: 'He's telling people I chip in when I can'

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  • A man sits on a windowsill holding a mug and looking at his phone, while another man sits on a couch reading a book
  • My roommate has been telling our whole friend group he pays for everything in our apartment

    Me and my roommate have been splitting rent and utilities 50/50 for two years, everything always on time, no issues.
  • Works fine. Last weekend I'm at a cookout and one of the guys in our group casually goes "yeah he mentioned he basically covers most of the bills cause you're saving up" and I just kind of laughed it off cause I thought he was joking.
  • Talked to two other people that night and they both had some version of the same story.
  • He's apparently been telling people he basically carries the apartment and that I chip in "when I can." Which is insane because I have never once been late and we literally split everything down the middle, I have the venmo history to prove it.
  • I do have some money saved up on the side but thats completely besides the point, he doesnt even know that.
  • The part that really gets me is these are MY friends first, I introduced him to this whole group two years ago.
  • So now I look like the guy who cant handle his finances when in reality nothing about that is true.
  • Do I say something directly to him or do I just start correcting people when it comes up?
  • I dont want to blow up the living situation cause we actually get along fine otherwise
  • A man sits on a windowsill holding a mug and checking his phone, while a bad blurred in the foreground sits and reads
  • CompetitiveAnnual316 I would say something, but don't accuse, ask. Be like "hey it came up in conversation that you've mentioned covering most of the bills and utilities, we both know that that's not true, since we split everything 50/50. Could I maybe get some insight into why you may have said this to X, Y, and Z" to also input that you heard it from multiple sources. If he gets argumentative, he's guilty. He prob is looking for some sort of recognition or something from your friend group, but
  • lun4d0r4 So stop paying your half. And when he asks what's up tell him the guests let you know he was happy to pay for everything so you could save up.
  • foxcommathe "Hey, I heard through my friends that you're willing to contribute more to our living situation so I can save more money! That's super generous and I'm so grateful. When would you like to start? Would you like to take 75% of all expenses or just 100%? This is so great, thanks for being such a fantastic friend and roommate! I'm so lucky to have someone as generous as you in my life. This is going to make such a huge difference for me!"
  • Double_Grape_4344 Call them out on it, in front of everyone and clear the air. Man to man, hash it out and get over it. No big deal
  • DasLoon I've never had to deal with a roommate like this, but I'd say you have 2 real options 1. Talk it out w the roommate. You both pay bills, youre both adults, work it out with them about how you dont like them lying about this. 2. Talk it out with the friends he's telling. See if they trust you or them more. Pull up your banks website, should be able to do it on the phone, and show receipts and proof of payment if it comes up in conversation without the roommate there. That'll show the frie
  • Dave-and-Buddy Whoop that a next cookout. Propose a duel
  • blindreper Call him I'm out in front of everyone with a PowerPoint and roast his a . I'd also not be friends. They don't like you, they are trying to make you look bad, friends don't do that.
  • ZinniasAndBeans \> Talked to two other people that night and they both had some version of the same story. Did you correct all three of them?
  • Avatorn01 Tell your friend group he's a lying a h le and leave it there

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